Vain! Excuse me? (Hormonal Lady Rant)

While I am sure this was blown out of proportion in my own mind due to my very hormonal pregnant state and my own reading into it but I feel a strong need to rant about it. I feel that there are just some things you should avoid saying to a woman, particularly a pregnant one. I apologise in advance for this going off in tangents that may not quite make sense.

During my night to myself, I took a few happy snaps documenting my shenanigans and I decide to collage them together. I was happy after my night, having made myself feel pretty and relaxing with not a worry in the world I thought I would share this collage via Instagram and in turn Facebook.

My collage that inspired the following response...

 This action was all well and good until a friend of my husband decided he would comment "I think you are addicted to looking at your own face Tabatha".
First little annoyance of misspelling my name when it's directly in front of your face to copy aside. I thought this comment was just rude and inappropriate. Not to mention hurtful and just a negative thing to say to another person.

It really hurt, the implication (that I took away) that I am obviously vain and that I come across as one of these people seek out my reflection wherever I go, be it a mirror or the back of my cereal spoon.

After seeing the comment, I became more then a little upset to say the least. Tears flowed and as my husband and son tried to comfort me, I worried and cried over thoughts of 'Am I really vain just like he implied?" and " Does everyone thinks that about me?"

After ashamedly a rather large portion of time had passed, I calmed down and just became simply pissed off!
I had had a wonderful evening and had taken a grand total of a whopping 5 selfies throughout the evening. I could not see how this made me vain. I also could not see how posting a picture of myself on my own Facebook page (I am one of those mum friends everyone has who posts mainly pictures of my offspring after all) made anyone think that I was therefore "obsessed with my own face".

During my evening to myself, I read a great article in the latest cosmopolitan magazine by Natasha Devon about the social convention that a female to "talk herself up". How we are seemingly not allowed to take genuine pride in how we look by acknowledging features that we love and think are gorgeous about ourselves as its somehow considered unfeminine. This comment made me think of this article.
While I didn't actually write anything to the nature of saying I liked how I looked or that i felt pretty etc. I guess it must of been implied by the fact that I happily shared a few images i had taken of myself. To have a comment made that implied I must be vain because of this happiness to share something that I was proud to show off just enforced what the article stated of how it is seen as unfeminine to have done so. That I must be arrogant and vain to be comfortable with how I looked.

In my current state, I am more then a little bit self-conscious at times. So having moments in which I don't feel like a big pregnant mess and that I am actually 100% happy with my appearance squashed by an insensitive remark really annoys me.

It's sad how much another's words can make you feel like crap when you were feeling so good just moments beforehand.

End rant. Dwelling on this is making the pregnant lady cranky so I am going to stop before my babbling festers out if control.