I'm currently 17 weeks pregnant, and while I was expecting for my relationships with friends to change when we welcomed home our new addition, I didn't completely expect to find myself noticing changes and shifts in my friendships from as early as 5 weeks into the pregnancy.
While friendships are ever-changing and evolving, and as you grow and change as people your friendships change, the (to me) dramatic changes I have already seen in a few of my friendships has in some ways been quite baffling. People whom I used to be quite close to and talk to almost daily, now seem to only contact me on occassion and more often then not the person to initiate the conversations is myself. I'm not sure if this is so much because that we have changed significantly to how we were all of 17 weeks ago, or if perhaps they are simply not as interested in what is going on in my world or in sharing with me what going on in theirs.
"Friendships are an exchange. You hang out with someone because they make you feel good and you enjoy their company- and vice versa," Dr Barbara Spears.
It's coming across (to me anyway) that maybe these particular people are under the assumption that since becoming pregnant, James and myself think, talk and want to know nothing else except about pregnancy and babies. It's as if some of them have forgotten that we have lives that involve and have involved other things for more then a little while. Neither of us have ever been the type of people to focus solely on ourselves and show no interest in other people and their lives. So I don't know why it seems that these people who have known us for so long would seemingly presume that we've somehow changed in the last 17 weeks.
Anyway this was just food for thought, hopefully this makes sense (as I am suffering from pregnancy brain) and doesn't sound to whingy.
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