21 things to do when I'm twenty-one (amended)

When I turned 21 in November last year I devised a list of twenty one things I wanted to do in the year I was 21. Since I came up with the list I have been able to mark off a certain number of items, but since becoming pregnant I have decided to reconsider a few things on my list simply because they aren’t going to be as easy to achieve or to even try to achieve in this short year (e.g. #4 Find the perfect jeans. Then buy two pairs) So hear a the few amendments :)

1. Go on a road trip and sing at the top of my voice.

2. Stay up all night with a friend watching classic DVDs.

3. Have a romantic picnic under the stars.

4. Find a pair of maternity jeans I like.

5. Learn how to take compliments.

6. Go on an overnight bushwalk.

7. Do something I’ve always been afraid too.

8. Go to a live comedy show (or a taping of GNW)

9. Plan a decadent and absolutely unforgettable 21st bash

10. Find a cause I really believe in and do something about it.

11. Get stuck into some more serious photography and art.

12. Try a food I would normally avoid at all costs.

13. Go fishing.

14. Take a spontaneous trip.

15. Broaden my library by reading a new book every fortnight (try and make them something other than Darren Shan and Anne Bishop :P)

16. Do a giant puzzle.

17. Learn who I can trust, who I can’t and why I shouldn’t take it personally

18. Write and mail a postsecret.

19. Get tipsy with good company.

20. Stress-less.

21. Be happy, have fun and simply enjoy what comes along!

On my mind: Friends Forever?

I'm currently 17 weeks pregnant, and while I was expecting for my relationships with friends to change when we welcomed home our new addition, I didn't completely expect to find myself noticing changes and shifts in my friendships from as early as 5 weeks into the pregnancy.

While friendships are ever-changing and evolving, and as you grow and change as people your friendships change, the (to me) dramatic changes I have already seen in a few of my friendships has in some ways been quite baffling. People whom I used to be quite close to and talk to almost daily, now seem to only contact me on occassion and more often then not the person to initiate the conversations is myself. I'm not sure if this is so much because that we have changed significantly to how we were all of 17 weeks ago, or if perhaps they are simply not as interested in what is going on in my world or in sharing with me what going on in theirs.

"Friendships are an exchange. You hang out with someone because they make you feel good and you enjoy their company- and vice versa," Dr Barbara Spears.

It's coming across (to me anyway) that maybe these particular people are under the assumption that since becoming pregnant, James and myself think, talk and want to know nothing else except about pregnancy and babies. It's as if some of them have forgotten that we have lives that involve and have involved other things for more then a little while. Neither of us have ever been the type of people to focus solely on ourselves and show no interest in other people and their lives. So I don't know why it seems that these people who have known us for so long would seemingly presume that we've somehow changed in the last 17 weeks.

Anyway this was just food for thought, hopefully this makes sense (as I am suffering from pregnancy brain) and doesn't sound to whingy.